We have come to an era when married couples can boldly discuss their s3xual desires, fantasies, and needs with no iota of shame or fear. Most times, couples open their hearts to the wrong people about their secret s3xual desires simply because they are not courageous enough to face their partners. They do not want to feel embarrassed or be branded as neophytes. This is quite understandable. The nature of our society has placed so much restriction on s3xual discourse
For instance, there is the avowed belief that the husband should always take the lead in s3xual affairs. But in an actual sense, both partners need to give each other a helping hand for better s3x life.
For instance, when it comes to pleasing their wives, many men do not have the clue as to when their wives want s3x, simply because most women shut their mouths while burning for s3xual desire inside. And the average husband would want the wife to, at least, drop some hints.
Women, tell your husbands the exact way you want it because what most men do is more or less trial and error. Point him towards your hot spots, and do so, using positive reinforcement. For instance, every woman can experience a breathtaking and ‘oh my God’ orgasm just by locating and caressing the ‘G’ spot; even when some of them have undergone female genital mutilation. After all, the ‘G’ spot is not mutilated. Husbands love it when their wives are able to guide them without giving them the typical dirty look, snarl at them, or push them away scornfully, behaving like a sacrificial lamb about to be slaughtered. No! Tell him how good it feels when he does something right, or erotically remind him of a performance that leaves you panting for more. This boosts his ego. For instance, wives love it when their husbands use their fingers to caress the inner part of their vagina. Every man wants to hear and know he is the best in bed, at least, from his wife. If he is not giving you enough foreplay, go ahead and tell him where you want to feel his hand or mouth (please, make sure you are clean inside out) and tell him that you want the moment to be a long one. Through guidance, a wife will surely get the maximum pleasure from every session of a s3xual affair with her husband.
As much as wives want to be turned on, husbands also want their wives to turn them on. It is no joke. Real hard work requires that a man should always sacrificially help to get the wife in the mood for s3x, recognising that it takes a long time for a woman to get aroused. Though most loving men are more than willing to get their wives fired up, husbands would appreciate it if their wives give themselves a head start occasionally. Try to get yourself into a s3xual state of mind. Reminding yourself about the last best s3xual encounter between you and your husband definitely turns you on, on sighting your husband. You can also remember the time he was so affectionate towards you. Create loving and sensual feelings by just fantasising about that alone.
I am sure you can still remember the article which dwelt on some daring, wild, erotic, exhilarating, and sensational positions. Except you experiment with it, you will not experience the bliss of sensation.
I always drum it into the ears of married women that our husbands care much about what we do. Even when their eyelids appear closed, we shouldn’t be deceived, men can see between the lines.
The taste is not only in the touch but also in the look. Their eyes are focused on every detail and this is being recorded in the subconscious mind. Often, they cast their minds back to their wives when they are tempted outside. If they get the best from their wives, they won’t go into extra-marital affairs. So, wives, be wise. This is not the time to postpone s3x till midnight when the children are asleep; you can have it at any time of the day.
Don’t bother about your saggy breast or shape. I can assure you, a high percentage of husbands are not so bothered about your shape or size, the moment they are ready. But they are very concerned about their wives ‘delivery.’ So, ‘deliver’ and leave the rest to the body. Your husband wants to watch you in your full glory and how your body reacts to their advances and how much you enjoy what they do to you. This is what gives a man the conquering satisfactory look. Some husbands want their wives to put on s3xy and seductive clothes.
Wives should never underestimate the profound power of new, nice, and scented s3xy lingerie which can produce an instant erection in men. I always encourage wives not to be afraid of getting naughty once in a while with their husbands. There is this feel of not wanting to shatter the ‘good girl’ image he has of you or the fact that you are weird. But the honest truth is that these husbands are not just sure of your reaction and they don’t want to offend you by asking for it. Of course, the real couple’s life s3x may not be as perfect as the ones being portrayed in movies, but you can still be a little wild by doing things that let him know how much you enjoy having s3x with him. Ironically, this will also give the wife the confidence to ask for what they want.
There is no point denying that an average spouse wants something new and exciting in bed.
No married partner wants ordinary s3x when they can swim in the ocean of the extraordinary.
So, every married couple needs to pull a move that either of the partners would not be able to stop thinking about weeks after. Therefore, married lovers should master some particular and peculiar s3xual tricks that are really out of this world. type can make the same wonderful s3x fall below average and even turn sour. So, there is no harm in opening up to variations. Don’t let your spouse easily predict your moves. The average human being loves surprises. Give them the best and see a changed person in your spouse.
Newness in speed, look, pressure, position, and place will definitely make for more interesting and explosive s3x life. Variety keeps s3x partners in a heightened state of arousal because neither of them is aware of what to expect next. Women love surprises.
It is bad when couples cannot remember the last time either of them surprised each other; s3x has become so habitual, thus making you an auto-pilot.
Re-ignite the old passion; plan a hot evening full of surprises. Create erotic anticipation; you can even phone and give a hint, but keep the detail.
Remember, curiosity, they say, kills the cat. But this time around, it kills boredom.
Question
My wife does not have s3xual feeling
I need your advice. My wife does not have any s3xual feeling. Is there any medication for this?
Answer
There is no woman without s3xual feelings. It is either not expressed or well expressed. Most times, societal values and family upbringing or early childhood trauma may affect the libido and s3xual expression of some women. But I can assure you, if you treat her with careful understanding and love, she will change.
Question
I have lost my s3xual power
We are a couple in our late 30s. Before our marriage, my wife used to talk of my s3xual prowess. I was still able to maintain this after our marriage. Suddenly, I noticed that I usually become soft anytime I want to have s3x with my wife, and it is not so whenever I come close to other ladies.
I am faithful to my wife, though she doubts me. What can I do? This is a serious issue. I have been managing the shame in silence. Can you give me a lasting solution? If one’s wife is not satisfied, she will definitely get satisfaction elsewhere.
Answer
I am sure that if you go the extra mile in making sure that you bring new innovations into your s3x life, you will enjoy your wife. It is possible for your wife to doubt your faithfulness if you do not satisfy her and you cannot get the best out of such a relationship.
Question
I have low sperm count
I’m married and I have a five-year-old daughter. Since the child was born, my wife has not been able to get pregnant and we have conducted a series of tests. I was diagnosed with a low sperm count. To compound the problem, I now have fewer s3xual feelings. Is it possible for me to impregnate my wife in this situation? We have spent a fortune on this without any improvement. Is there any known traditional treatment or any piece of advice that will make my wife conceive? What are the possible causes of this low sperm count?
Answer
Low sperm count could be due to poor dietary intake, stress, and other medical conditions. Since you have consulted your doctor, I will advise you to relax and do all you can to take your mind off the situation. We all know that nothing is impossible with God.
Question
I can’t go beyond one round
I usually find it difficult to go beyond one round with my wife. What could be responsible for that?
Answer
You may need to change your diet and do something to reduce the stress you go through every day. Except you are in your mid-40s, you should not be experiencing such. If this persists, consult a medical doctor.
Question
How can I retain the firmness of my vaginal walls?
I am a young lady in my mid-thirties and I am blessed with a loving man, who is the only man I ever had s3x with. According to him, making love with me is like taking a walk around the garden of Eden. He confesses this at every opportunity.
My major concern is, I am currently two months pregnant and I heard that women tend to lose the firmness of their vaginal walls after childbirth. How true is this? Can I opt for a CS instead of the normal delivery method? I am afraid of the pains of labour.
ANSWER
You have the right to choose the one you want. But, be aware that C/S and normal vaginal delivery have both their advantages and disadvantages. Actually, most African ladies opt for normal vaginal delivery because of its advantages over C/S. If you ever consider changing your mind, you can practice KEGEL exercise after delivery. The point of emphasis here is that with or without C/S, you may lose the tightness of your virginal wall.
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